Woman made 84 calls a day to man who allegedly incited suicide attempt

Brendan Hawkins faces charges of blackmail, assault and inciting his ex-partner to attempt suicide.
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Brendan Hawkins faces charges of blackmail, assault and inciting his ex-partner to attempt suicide.

A woman who was allegedly induced to attempt suicide by her ex-partner once called him 84 times a day and also created fake emails and social media accounts to contact him.

The information emerged during the second day of Brendan Hawkins’ jury trial at Rotorua District Court.

He is accused of inciting suicide, blackmail and assault in relation to his ex-partner, who cannot be named for legal reasons.

He had urged her to suicide in messages, the jury heard earlier, including one that said: “Make suicide, no one cares about you, no one likes you. Do it and let me see”.

The couple allegedly had an on-off toxic relationship from May 2019 to May 2021, and it continued in secret — and in violation of bail conditions — after Hawkins was convicted of domestic violence against her.

On Monday, the court heard about Hawkins’ messages, which the Crown says were used to manipulate and control, often telling her to kill herself. The defense said he “never intended to intentionally encourage that act.”

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“Words tend to come out of people when they are upset, even if they mean it or not,” the woman told the court (file photo).

But messages from the complainant, who cannot be named for legal reasons, were in the spotlight during questioning by lawyer Ngaroma Tahana on Tuesday.

The complainant admitted that she had called Hawkins 84 times in one day in 2021.

On one day 28 calls were made, on another day 34 calls.

She also admitted to using several fake email addresses and social media accounts to contact him, and at one point told Hawkins she was pregnant.

“Were you pregnant?” asked lawyer Ngaroma Tahana.

“I found out then, no, I wasn’t,” she said.

And she contacted another woman she thought was dating Hawkins, telling him to call her “before I screw up that little whore”.

She also admitted to creating a faked photo of a positive pregnancy test to send to the woman, though she denied it was “an attempt to get Brendan’s attention”.

“Words tend to come out of people when they’re upset, even if they mean it or not,” she said of that exchange.

Brendan Hawkins is on trial in Rotorua District Court.

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Brendan Hawkins is on trial in Rotorua District Court.

“I loved him and wanted to talk to him, so I was upset,” she said.

The complainant also emailed Hawkins telling him “now that I know your schedule, I know where to go”, and admitted under questioning that she lied about knowing his schedule.

Asked by prosecutor Alex Manio during cross-examination why she made up fake email addresses, she said: “I was a little bit panicked, sometimes he blocked me… I tried to reach out any way I could”.

The Crown says the assault charge against Hawkins stemmed from an incident in a ute where he allegedly hit his partner, and the blackmail allegations stemmed from him demanding money not to reveal their secret ongoing relationship.

Tahana has said the alleged attack “just didn’t happen”.

The process continues.

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Woman made 84 calls a day to man who allegedly incited suicide attempt

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