Viral TikTok Shows Woman Gets Angry About ‘Wild’ Man Watching Her At Gym But Many Accuse Her Of Seeking Attention
On TikTok, @Jessica49 has 624,000 followers and almost 45 million likes on her posts. She posts snippets of her life such as working out at the gym, putting on makeup and trying new foods. On Friday, she posted a TikTok of herself getting ready for hip thrusts at a gym. There’s a man behind her in a green T-shirt who appears to be doing his own workout, but she claims he’s staring at her and making her feel uncomfortable.
“This is how not to approach girls at the gym,” she captioned the video.
“I hate this. I hate when there are crazy people around, it makes me so uncomfortable,” she whispers into the microphone she clips to her sports bra as she puts on her barbell. “Haunted, haggard, haggard, haggard, like damn haggard.” She creates a “stare counter” in the top left corner of her screen to supposedly keep track of how often the man looks at her. She also writes in the video that she’s “contemplating screaming bloody murder to make him go away.”
But as you watch the video, it’s hard to even tell what the man is looking at, and when he looked in her direction, it was only for a split second. Nevertheless, Jessica claims he was rude and predatory.
“This guy kept making me feel really uncomfortable in the gym…this is why I end up crying while streaming because sometimes I feel so annoyed by the amount of sexualization I experience. Hopefully this spreads awareness for girls who get this kind of treatment in the gym,” she tweeted when she shared the video on Twitter. The video quickly went viral and sparked a conversation about why women do things like this in the gym.
Many people commented on the video and quoted the video, showing another side of the situation: she did this just to get attention, and it doesn’t seem strange that she films herself training in front of hundreds of thousands of followers on TikTok but she is suddenly deeply upset that a person is watching her while she is working out? The criticism came so quickly that Jessica shut down the comments on her thread. Numerous Twitter users pointed out that Jessica is the problem in this situation, not the man standing behind her, suggesting that the man was actually trying to help her with the heavy plates instead of chasing her.
The rise of toxic femininity on social media
There were a few things that people involuntarily noticed about Jessica’s story. First of all, she wears very little clothes in a public gym. Despite how much our culture tries to tell us that what a woman wears doesn’t matter at all and shouldn’t provoke unwanted advances from men, the truth is that if a woman wears revealing skimpy clothes in public, men will notice. That’s just how it works.
Jessica added a few tweets to her thread claiming that she is constantly harassed online for being an attractive woman that men can’t stop looking at. “I can see how I look like I have an inflated ego but I am an attractive girl in a beauty standard sense and I get extremely sexually harassed online and it causes random strangers approaching me to trigger my trauma which is why I am responding this side,” she tweeted. “I’m also extremely anti-social and being touched is never a compliment to me. I don’t like being approached. I haven’t dated in a year because I hate being sexualized. It happens anyway and I get frustrated . It’s normal for girls to feel this way because it happens OFTEN?”
Considering she routinely shows off her body on social media for people to see, it’s hard to accept that she’s this bumbling person who doesn’t like attention, especially sexualized attention. Many people pointed out that Jessica charges people $9.99 a month to see more of her photos on Fanhouse. And these photos reveal even more than what she puts on TikTok.
How can a woman claim to be “extremely sexually harassed online” while simultaneously posting sexual photos of herself for men to gawk at? These are just the pictures on the public fanwall; we don’t even know what she posts on her private feed. It is also worth noting that she has an OnlyFans account.
Moments like this that go viral only confirm how much social media has fueled the rise of toxic femininity. Toxicly feminine women are incredibly vain and are under the impression that all men want to approach and date them. They act like the eternal victim without taking any personal responsibility for their own actions. They expect the whole world to take care of them, their traumas and their delicate needs. Toxic femininity has only grown more and more because women get a large audience to demonstrate all these qualities, and they are rewarded for it with clicks and likes and followers.
If a man has a problem with another man, at worst they will fight it out and hit each other. Perhaps this can be categorized as toxic masculinity. But when a woman is scorned, toxic femininity can lead her to go to the jugular vein and try to ruin that person’s life. It is no exaggeration to say that these kinds of videos of women with toxic femininity are meant to humiliate the man in question and even ruin his life (in this day and age men have been canceled and their lives have been ruined for much less).
A woman who is really uncomfortable with a man staring at her at the gym wouldn’t videotape it and put it on TikTok for all to see. She would remove herself from the environment, talk to the manager about feeling harassed, and do everything she can to stay far away from the man in question. But toxic femininity doesn’t work that way, and unfortunately social media platforms like TikTok reward these women for behaving in a petulant way.