to manage tantrums in young children.
What do you mean by whims?
If you’re wondering what defines tantrums, here’s how developmental and behavioral pediatrician Dr. Himani Narula defines them.
“Tan outbursts are behavioral episodes characterized by extreme anger and frustration. The child may express his frustration by screaming
throwing one’s body away violently or crying excessively. They may throw things, fall to the floor, hit their limbs or head on the floor,” Dr. Narula, co-founder of Continua Kids, tells Health Shots.
While parents may feel worried, tantrums are natural behaviors.
Children in their early life are learning to be autonomous and independent, thus trying to create their own identity separate from theirs
parents is the basis of anger.
Children may throw tantrums to get their parents’ attention or to manipulate the situation to suit them. In children with delayed communication, tantrums may worsen due to their inability and frustration at not being able to communicate effectively. Certain conditions such as hunger, lack of sleep, exhaustion, or illness can trigger a tantrum. However, it’s not a sign of bad parenting.
1. Stay calm and composed
It is important for parents to remain calm and composed. Don’t hit your child or yell or yell at your child during a tantrum. The child observes the parent clearly and learns to express anger as the parent does. So if a parent yells, yells or hits the child, the child may copy it in the future. “They will when they get angry or frustrated. They learn it as a way to express their anger,” adds Dr. Narula.
Keeping calm is vital. It is important for the parent to set a precedent for the child by modeling excellent communication skills.
2. Avoid arguing with the child
Don’t raise your voice in front of them. Toddlers can even read our facial expressions. It is important to teach our child to use the right way to express their emotions. So, teaching them to communicate well can help reduce their tantrums.
3. Give them positive attention
Satisfy your child’s needs by providing him with positive attention, reading, playing with him and including him in routine activities.
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4. Adjust your screen time
Avoid excessive screen time and expose them to violent on-screen content, suggests the expert. Excessive screen viewing can lead to irritability, inattentiveness and addiction which in turn can lead to an increase in tantrums and violent behavior in children.
5. Teach children to express themselves in words
Parents need to teach children to share their feelings using words. It is okay for the child to make choices and for the parents to allow them to do so where it is acceptable.
6. Have regular routines
Plan set meals and nap times. Eating healthy foods and snacks can help a child be healthier, more energetic, and more playful, thus indirectly helping us keep tantrums down.
What if your child throws a tantrum in public?
Sometimes, parents may observe a child throwing a tantrum in public places such as shopping malls, weddings, birthday parties, and family reunions.
“This is because the baby is overstimulated and can tend to tire very easily,” explains Dr. Narula. He adds that in such contexts they may use tantrums as a method of getting parental attention.
Again, avoid yelling, yelling or scolding your child in such situations as it may aggravate the tantrum and affect his self-esteem.
“Repeated incidents of scolding, yelling, raising your voice, hitting or hitting the child in a tantrum can impact a child’s mental health on a
long-term basis,” says Dr. Narula.
* It can have a bad influence on their personality, self-esteem and confidence
* Tend to develop self-doubt, may become overtly shy with introverts
* May lack confidence in interacting with others.
A quick strategy to keep in mind for dealing with tantrums would be to get “RIDDs” out of your child’s tantrums.
A: Stay calm.
I: Ignore tantrums.
D: Distract the child.
Q: Say ‘yes’ when you meet the child’s physique and
security needs, but do not give in to all their demands.